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I'm starting to think I left all the really great Asian men or even men in general on the East Coast. I want to find that special, elusive spark that I thought I had once. The one that still has you holding hands years later, or kissing in public without embarassment... You know the one... Well, *I* had it, but he didn't, it seems, and as with so many things, a relationship takes two. So many people say in various profiles that they don't want strings. I DO want strings. In fact, I want the entire ball of yarn! I want one man that will love me for... ME! At that point, let me quote from the movie 'Practical Magic'; "For the right man, what wouldn't I do?". Well, the answer is nothing. There is almost nothing. I'd not do for the right man. Is he here? Does he exist anywhere? I'll keep looking. I’m five feet tall, 120 pounds, average build, Scottish and Native American, short red hair and BLUNT. That’s a size 5-6 or 34-25-34. I do not have a model's or movie star's body and never will. But I'm also NOT a fat slob. I prefer younger men and really would prefer an Oriental or Native American man. Other guys are gonna have to be pretty outstanding to get my attention, but it can be done! I am divorced (which does NOT mean desperate!) I’m a good cook, worked in the medical profession for... well, a long time. But my first novel was published 10/04. I'm working on the next 2 and going to school full time as well. (No, I’m NOT interested in TV or movies. Just want to be a paid, published author on the bestseller list.) I’m passionate, loving, caring, affectionate, active; enjoy hiking, camping, swimming, scuba diving, motorcycle riding, horseback riding and a great many other activities. I'd love to learn to roller blade! Wanna teach me? I have one child who lives in Georgia. I cannot physically have any more children. Am VERY straight (No married men (If you live with someone, are separated, engaged, etc - YOU'RE MARRIED!),no females, no Bi or Gay men,(unless the gay ones wanna be just best friends and we can guy watch together!) I am disease free and plan to stay that way. You need to be too! I’m looking for a friend, someone to do things with, a lover, a boyfriend and a permanent partner in my life. (Them being all the same person would be good.) I’d prefer to talk to the person, meet and see if there is any ‘sparkage’. We can go from there and if something casual develops into more, that’s okay. I DO want marriage, be it whatever religion.
My Ideal Person:
A photo is necessary and if it is more than 6 months old, please say so.
I cannot believe I even have to say that you have to have good personal hygiene! But, from some of the men I have met in the recent past, obviously I do. If you don't like soap, shampoo, deodorant, great...do it on your own time, not when you're meeting me! You smell like a raunchy skunk, go away!
Disease free also means get that sinus or urinary tract or whatever-the-'frell'-infection cleared up too. I DON'T want them! If you want to start re-decorating or rearranging my home immediately and I've not lost my mind and eloped, or you're not Chris Lowell, THINK AGAIN!
If you're 'fat this week', you probably were last week too. If I'm good enough to have for a 'intimate-buddy', I'm good enough to date and be seen with. If I can't have both, then you can't have either.
You CANNOT: send an email, then run over to meet me and be intimate with me. I need to know you a bit first! If all you're looking for is a 'intimate-buddy', say so immediently! Chances are we won't pursue contact after that. No lies! It's not gonna get you what you want! So if you say you're interested, want to see me, want to date me, want a long term relationship, I'd suggest you mean it.
And before you tell me there are sites to find a boyfriend/etc. Yeah, been there. The dancing around the subject of just wanting to be intimate with the woman is simply more tedious and less honest. We have feelings, even if a good many of you don't seem to.
While the chances of finding the ideal man are quite slim, I’ll mention what I prefer. It’s NOT engraved in stone. However, I DO prefer younger men. BUT you must be OVER 27! (Gotta be over 28 next year! Basically, older than my daughter.)
Ideal: SINGLE (if you are living with someone you're NOT single! And if you're separated, you're STILL married! *THIS IS NOT NEGOTIABLE!), STRAIGHT, about 40-ish, 5’5” – 5’10”-ish (although taller or shorter are okay too!) I really prefer Native American, Oriental or the best possible would be a combination of the two.
I should find them attractive. (This doesn’t mean movie star or model looks only. It also DOES mean pictures are necessary.) You also need to be: HONEST, understanding, affectionate, intelligent, communicative, D&D free, non-alcoholics, prefer non-smokers (but we can work out a compromise on this), okay with PDA’s (public display of affection) within reason, and gifted by Mother Nature is always a plus! Slender, average or toned body build is preferable as is no facial hair and easy on the body hair.
Having children should NOT be a priority. Having a motorcycle is a big plus and if your hair is long… well, lots of pluses there. But long, as in now, not however many years ago.
Being open to the possibility of a long-term, meaningful relationship is good. It can happen! We should have similar tastes in music, activities… basic compatibility. Trust me, these things can be a big problem in a relationship.
If you are NEVER available on a weekend or only certain nights a week, chances are good there is a girlfriend already in the picture. If I can’t be someone who’s worth spending weekend time with, don’t bother writing.
Being open to intimate experimentation is good, but pain is NOT included in that! So if I push your hand away or tell you to be gentle, that means you're hurting me and STOP!
So are there really any good, attractive men left out there that aren’t just players, or users? I'm seriously doubting it at this point. I think they are all still back east. I dare you to prove me wrong!
Favorite television shows:
CSI, & Miami, Grey's Anatomy, House, One Tree Hill, and right now, RockStar:INXS
Favorite films:
The Long Kiss Goodnight, Top Gun, Volcano, Everafter, Practical Magic, Calendar Girls, Split Second,
Favorite musicians or bands:
not enough room here for that!
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