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DangerousBeauty2
5/14/2008 11:48 pm

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I am a little nervous...I am meeting his parents next month.

Any pointers?

I know that I should dress really nice the first night. Nice blouse and a skirt or slacks.

I need to go shopping for nice casual clothes for the rest of the week when I spend time with his grandma and the rest of the family.

HELP!!!!
DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/21/2008 9:17 pm

    Quoting CrstnJdiNite_2:
    Danger, wow. I'm sorry. *pat pat*

    My parents a bit old-fashioned, but they would not expect you to help around the house while u were there. The most me mum would expect is to help out in the kitchen to do some of the cooking and do some dishes when the meal was over. That's it.

    But to answer your question tho, it is best to be yourself and as honest with them as you can. There is no need to pretend to be something to them to please his parents. It would do you any good if you are one way one moment and another way the next time they are around you. . What I mean by that is, act one way in front of them and another way while they r not around.

    Or do a complete 180 on them when you get married. Trust me, A lot of of my brothers wives/girlfriends have been like that. More extreme in some cases they even changed my brothers' personality and character. One of my brothers, has not been himself since after he gotten married. It frustrates me because I know he is not the person he once was.

    That's the worse one could get, and so do not be that way.

    Sorry, just in a melancholy mood. *bows respectfully*
thank you CJN...

CrstnJdiNite_2
16 posts 

5/21/2008 4:19 pm

    Quoting DangerousBeauty2:
    yes brown, i was planning to do that anyways...

    he also wants me to learn how to make his favorite dishes from his grams.

    i think his mom and grandma are already expecting me to help around the house when i am there.

    not much of a vacation...
Danger, wow. I'm sorry. *pat pat*

My parents a bit old-fashioned, but they would not expect you to help around the house while u were there. The most me mum would expect is to help out in the kitchen to do some of the cooking and do some dishes when the meal was over. That's it.

But to answer your question tho, it is best to be yourself and as honest with them as you can. There is no need to pretend to be something to them to please his parents. It would do you any good if you are one way one moment and another way the next time they are around you. . What I mean by that is, act one way in front of them and another way while they r not around.

Or do a complete 180 on them when you get married. Trust me, A lot of of my brothers wives/girlfriends have been like that. More extreme in some cases they even changed my brothers' personality and character. One of my brothers, has not been himself since after he gotten married. It frustrates me because I know he is not the person he once was.

That's the worse one could get, and so do not be that way.

Sorry, just in a melancholy mood. *bows respectfully*

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/16/2008 5:20 pm

yes brown, i was planning to do that anyways...

he also wants me to learn how to make his favorite dishes from his grams.

i think his mom and grandma are already expecting me to help around the house when i am there.

not much of a vacation...

browneyes_72
90 posts 

5/16/2008 4:35 pm

always do dishes after meal.....

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/16/2008 9:13 am

    Quoting spider112007:
    Am I the only dumbass here who doesn't know about all this, and who this lucky guy is??? Good advice above...so I won't even say! I trust ya anyways!

    GOOD LUCK JULSEY!

    Spidy
oh spidy...you are not a dumbass...

i don't announce it in chat. not all the time anyways.

thank you...

spider112007
28 posts 

5/15/2008 11:36 pm

Am I the only dumbass here who doesn't know about all this, and who this lucky guy is??? Good advice above...so I won't even say! I trust ya anyways!

GOOD LUCK JULSEY!

Spidy

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 8:18 pm

    Quoting korn2020:
    Just be yourself !!!!!!
i plan to but not entirely...

i have to let them know that i am sweeter than grumpy at times. ahahhaha.

korn2020
1477 posts

5/15/2008 8:03 pm

Just be yourself !!!!!!

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 2:36 pm

    Quoting Memories2Me:
    DB.. never let them see you sweat.. iz about it
I'm prone to perspiration...

Memories2Me

5/15/2008 1:45 pm

DB.. never let them see you sweat.. iz about it

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 1:19 pm

    Quoting kimberlykim:
    DB,

    1) don't go empty handed bring flowers, bottle of wine, or basket set of fruits...
    2) be polite, respectful, don't over talk... most importantly, be yourself
    3) he is korean... follow korean customs, ex: no shoes in the house, so make sure no holes in your socks, or rung out pantyhoes. LOL
    4) remember you must wear something over your feet, not welcomed in bare feet. At least in my house! hehe
    You'll do just fine!. Best Luck to you, Break a Leg.
thank you kiki...good reminders.

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:22 pm

    Quoting christine2007:
    Db.......

    You will do fine! The most important thing is TO BE YOURSELF. They will love you. Their son loves you......

    Christine
Unni...you know how I sweat beads of perspiration on my nose and forehead. I hope it doesn't get too bad.

I know, he reassured me that his parents will love me bc he does. I just want them to love me because I love him.

I am going to be doubly stressed with studying for finals and meeting the parents. I hope I don't look too tired. I need to moisturize morning, noon, and night that week!!!!!

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:17 pm

    Quoting HELIODORUS:
    An advice of a greek man.

    Even i dont know the korea customs

    Casual clothes, not to casual, not to strength
    Dont talk to much, dont be silent
    Offer ur help to his mother always
    Aks ur man first if he likes something, water, food or what ever
    Wake up as first, go to sleep as last but always with him.

    And be yourself so he can loves you. When his parents will see how much he likes you, akk will be easier.

    Good Luck from an old greek guy.
I know he will sit beside me to give me strength.

I do have the basic courtesies down, I just need to dress presentabale. It's been a while since I've had to do one of these.

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:15 pm

    Quoting frenchguy38:
    Hello DB,
    Sweeet.. meeting the parents !
    I think you shouldn't even go for shopping new clothes... by doing this you "make" this meeting more important than it is. I mean, it's an important event but don't put extra pressure. I'm sure you've got already clothes that you feel comfortable with... you know, the shirt that, secretly, brings you luck (I have my "Lucky" shirt.. LOL )
    Anyway... just be yourself. Best of luck.
    Have a beautiful day
French i need some new clothes because some of my tops are sleeveless. i have a few blouses but since the weather has been unpredictable, i hope it stays cool there when i get there bc i don't do well with hot weather.

i need to get a few new business casual collared shirts.

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:14 pm

    Quoting ren1957:
    A tip from a person who been thru 2 times meet the future in laws..
    JUST BE YOURSELF..that's alright if you drop your cup or spill food on the table..or stumble when you walk parents don't like fake future daughter in law...so just be yourself and smile alot...always remember say THANK YOU>> with a smile

    OH!! YEAH,,,no low cuts see thru or backless blouses or dresses and short mini skirt..you might give GRANDMA a heart failure....

    GOOD LUCK!!!
i am clumsy ren...

i can't slip up like that. i don't think i can show my true self in the initial meeting. need to make a lasting impression.

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:12 pm

    Quoting sweetpepe:
    have confidence, DB. I think his parents are the ones who should be concerned about leaving good impression so that you will take care of their son for them, no?
pepe oppa i wish that was the case...they could hate me. but he knows they will love me since he does...

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:11 pm

    Quoting jbunny012:
    um~~~~~~ can't really help u there.. -_- depends if he comes from a conservative background or not..

    if it was my hal mony.. she hates everyone but the family..lol~
spoke with the hal-mony already in his car on the phone. she sounded so cute. just hope that she thinks i'm cute.

DangerousBeauty2
1077 posts

5/15/2008 12:10 pm

    Quoting AbsoluteQTAngel:
    Never go to the Parents empty handed. Always bring something! This is a rule for visiting anyone.

    Dress up but not overboard. A Blouse, a Pencil Skirt with sensable but feminine shoes should do it. If you feel you look better in slacks then by all means wear slacks. I think families (korean and italian etc...) are just impressed by women who embrace dresses and skirts its must be a old world thing.

    And just prepare yourself to enjoy the evening. Remember those parents are the original form of your guy. So he is an extenstion of their souls. Appreciate them for that... without them he wouldnt exsist.
QT...thank you. a bit of feminity with class. always been my style.

thank you.

kimberlykim
100 posts 

5/15/2008 12:09 pm

DB,

1) don't go empty handed bring flowers, bottle of wine, or basket set of fruits...
2) be polite, respectful, don't over talk... most importantly, be yourself
3) he is korean... follow korean customs, ex: no shoes in the house, so make sure no holes in your socks, or rung out pantyhoes. LOL
4) remember you must wear something over your feet, not welcomed in bare feet. At least in my house! hehe
You'll do just fine!. Best Luck to you, Break a Leg.

christine2007
153 posts 

5/15/2008 9:00 am

Db.......

You will do fine! The most important thing is TO BE YOURSELF. They will love you. Their son loves you......

Christine

AbsoluteQTAngel
570 posts 

5/15/2008 8:37 am

Never go to the Parents empty handed. Always bring something! This is a rule for visiting anyone.

Dress up but not overboard. A Blouse, a Pencil Skirt with sensable but feminine shoes should do it. If you feel you look better in slacks then by all means wear slacks. I think families (korean and italian etc...) are just impressed by women who embrace dresses and skirts its must be a old world thing.

And just prepare yourself to enjoy the evening. Remember those parents are the original form of your guy. So he is an extenstion of their souls. Appreciate them for that... without them he wouldnt exsist.

HELIODORUS
171 posts

5/15/2008 5:32 am

An advice of a greek man.

Even i dont know the korea customs

Casual clothes, not to casual, not to strength
Dont talk to much, dont be silent
Offer ur help to his mother always
Aks ur man first if he likes something, water, food or what ever
Wake up as first, go to sleep as last but always with him.

And be yourself so he can loves you. When his parents will see how much he likes you, akk will be easier.

Good Luck from an old greek guy.

frenchguy38
569 posts 

5/15/2008 5:21 am

Hello DB,
Sweeet.. meeting the parents !
I think you shouldn't even go for shopping new clothes... by doing this you "make" this meeting more important than it is. I mean, it's an important event but don't put extra pressure. I'm sure you've got already clothes that you feel comfortable with... you know, the shirt that, secretly, brings you luck (I have my "Lucky" shirt.. LOL )
Anyway... just be yourself. Best of luck.
Have a beautiful day

ren1957
280 posts 

5/15/2008 2:12 am

A tip from a person who been thru 2 times meet the future in laws..
JUST BE YOURSELF..that's alright if you drop your cup or spill food on the table..or stumble when you walk parents don't like fake future daughter in law...so just be yourself and smile alot...always remember say THANK YOU>> with a smile

OH!! YEAH,,,no low cuts see thru or backless blouses or dresses and short mini skirt..you might give GRANDMA a heart failure....

GOOD LUCK!!!

sweetpepe
1080 posts

5/15/2008 1:04 am

have confidence, DB. I think his parents are the ones who should be concerned about leaving good impression so that you will take care of their son for them, no?

jbunny012
90 posts

5/15/2008 12:54 am

um~~~~~~ can't really help u there.. -_- depends if he comes from a conservative background or not..

if it was my hal mony.. she hates everyone but the family..lol~

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