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hav few Qs for those of u who'se seeking sugamamas... This is a make believe scenario; ur a fob from Canada who just moved to k-town w decent education w good looks n manners... U end up w a job u hav no previous training nor do u even enjoy working in da field... One nite u hook up w this divorcee @ a niteclub n start dating her ... along da line u discover she is loaded... Despite da fact dat she s 6 yrs older than u n have a teenage daughter, u convince her to marry u n get her to open up a biz for u... but not long after marriage things start to fall apart... she being an owner herself of an import/ export biz is out late entertaining her outa town guests often... U dont see the necessity of her must b out late late everytime her clients in town... She argues back , its part of the biz... Making points like if i lose clients n go outa biz will u b able to provide for me n my daughter?? Truth is u really hav no choices.. So eversince this insult from ur wife u no longer were able to speak up to her or complain about thing dat u were unhappy with... as if this wasnt bad enuf ... Ur wife's daughter started disrespecting u by ignoring ur greetings n leaving house messy for u to clean up after them... U practically became their slave n god knows wut ur wife is actually out doing when she claims she s entertaining her clients.... Now the Q is how many of u can accept such marriage n live under these conditions n those of u who says no way jose ... Wut action would u take??? |
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7/27/2009 2:26 pm |
Jamie baby, I love you but I wish you wouldn't generalize your opinions so broadly. If you were in a healthy relationship, living as true partners, Age, Money and even ability shouldn't be the factors why you would value someone more or value someone less. You've kinda dismissed a scenario of a healthy relationship. If they are disrespectful and treat me with little value. If I think I know her business better than she does and disagree rather than support and everything fell apart. I would know that this is not a relationship. Jamie has "painted" the people (men) in her example as "self-centered", petty, insecure, "USERS" AND BASICALLY SELFISH whether her question is answer one way or the other and for whatever reason. No matter what you are, she sees a dog!!!!!!!!!! y r u being sooOooo~~~ defensive??? u believe everything u read n hear??? do u think i have such a good imagination dat i just made up this scenario outa blue????? hmmmmm~~~~~~~~??????? Or..... u trying to c if u can get some scoop outa this post?????? hmmmmmmmmmmmm~~~~~~~!?!?!?!  or 
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7/26/2009 7:48 pm |
Jamie baby, I love you but I wish you wouldn't generalize your opinions so broadly. If you were in a healthy relationship, living as true partners, Age, Money and even ability shouldn't be the factors why you would value someone more or value someone less. You've kinda dismissed a scenario of a healthy relationship. If they are disrespectful and treat me with little value. If I think I know her business better than she does and disagree rather than support and everything fell apart. I would know that this is not a relationship. Jamie has "painted" the people (men) in her example as "self-centered", petty, insecure, "USERS" AND BASICALLY SELFISH whether her question is answer one way or the other and for whatever reason. No matter what you are, she sees a dog!!!!!!!!!!
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1/3/2009 1:17 pm |
Yes, I'm sure. Doesn't matter if she's supporting me finacially or if I'm a year away from citizenship. That's not what marriage is about. Again, he got married for all the wrong reasons and he's paying for it but I would divorce her. c'est la vie~!~!~! 
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 12/30/2008 4:46 pm |
r u sure u wanna do dat??? i mean she is da one who is supporting u financially n ur just a year away from gaining eligibility to apply for the citizenship...
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12/30/2008 7:13 am |
From what you said, his greed bit him in the ass and now he is paying for his big mistake. This happens to women more than it does to men. He has choices and yet he maintains what is not good for him. albert i'm sooOooOo w/ U on this... but cant help wondering dat dare mite b more to wut meets da eyes... for any guy to swallow his pride n live under such condition... almost feeling sympathy for this person...
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12/30/2008 7:05 am |
I'm not invited and she wants to keep her ex's last name so she can play the "I'm still divorced and available" game? Well, I would give her her wish and divorce her so she can be legit in her game. i mean she is da one who is supporting u financially n ur just a year away from gaining eligibility to apply for the citizenship...
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12/29/2008 7:15 pm |
hey Zen... long time , eh??? Well... Dat would ' ve been my Q ... but lets just say ... He not invited~!~?~! Lets also say she s still keeping her x- hubbys last name so she can play im still divorced n available...
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12/22/2008 2:54 pm |
From what you said, his greed bit him in the ass and now he is paying for his big mistake. This happens to women more than it does to men. He has choices and yet he maintains what is not good for him. albert
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12/19/2008 8:29 pm |
Hi Jamie, Would you join my friends network? I tried to do it, but kff wants me to upgrade to do this. I'd like to have you as a friend, if you don't mind. You seem interesting and cute. Let me know.
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12/19/2008 8:21 pm |
Hey Jamie, Back to the theard, if I we're the mistreated husband and met someone else and fell in love with her, then I would tell my current wife that since we don't love each other, we should separate coz I need to be loved and give love to my partner. Since you will not give it to me, I need to move on to someone else who will fulfill my desires and dreams. But Jamie, this is hard for me to answer this kind of situation, coz I'm not this sort of guy in the first place, so my answers might be different then a money grabbin player sort of guy, you know what I mean.
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12/18/2008 8:16 pm |
Hi Jamie, If I was new to k-town looking for friends and met a girl I really liked, then I would try to get to know her better. More late night meetings at romantic restaurants, walks on the beach, watch good movies, to see if we're compatible. If we are, then everything else is worth it, coz your with your lover and life seems so much better. I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in everlasting love, where you hate being apart from your lover and just looking at her face makes you smile. I may be a hopeless romantic, but I know there are others who feel the same way as I do. thought we were talking thread.... i meant wut if u as da mistreated married guy fell in love w someone else while u were out looking for new friends??? wut would u do in this situations???
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12/18/2008 5:03 pm |
Hi Jamie, If I was new to k-town looking for friends and met a girl I really liked, then I would try to get to know her better. More late night meetings at romantic restaurants, walks on the beach, watch good movies, to see if we're compatible. If we are, then everything else is worth it, coz your with your lover and life seems so much better. I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in everlasting love, where you hate being apart from your lover and just looking at her face makes you smile. I may be a hopeless romantic, but I know there are others who feel the same way as I do.
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12/18/2008 7:19 am |
Hey Jamie, Do you have any with happy endings coz life's too short for all this confusion. I just want to find my other half and walk through life together holding her hand, always. Don't you?  just kiddin~! ^ ^U hav NO idea how much I wish all love stories end w happy endings... I just wish dare r more men like u around ~! ^ ^
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12/18/2008 7:01 am |
Hi Jamie, Since this guy got married to this lady for financial gain in the first place, he proably didn't love her in the first place. So he should stay with her, even if she does this to him, coz he's in it for the money anyways. Personally, I cherish love too much to let myself ever get into a situation like this, coz I hate to get my heart broken. It just hurts too much, when you fail. wut if along da line u felt lonely since u didnt hav any friends... U know u being fairly New to da town n all... U decide to start making new friends n while u try to fullfill ur new quest , u meet this girl n fall in love w her??? then wut will u do???
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12/17/2008 8:57 pm |
Hey Jamie, Do you have any with happy endings coz life's too short for all this confusion. I just want to find my other half and walk through life together holding her hand, always. Don't you?
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12/17/2008 8:47 pm |
Hi Jamie, Since this guy got married to this lady for financial gain in the first place, he proably didn't love her in the first place. So he should stay with her, even if she does this to him, coz he's in it for the money anyways. Personally, I cherish love too much to let myself ever get into a situation like this, coz I hate to get my heart broken. It just hurts too much, when you fail.
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12/17/2008 6:50 pm |
Hi Jamie, I guess it would depend on how much I love and trusted her. If I loved her, then I would try to make things work no matter what the financial situation is. I also would try to understand her work and help as much as I can, especially with her daughter, coz they need to build a bond as a family. Trust is very important in a relationship, so as long as we trust each other, then I would make the effort, but would like things to get better with time. Honestly, I love spending nights with my partner, so I would like things to get better. like not eating meals together 6 days out of 7 days??? n didn't wanna get intimate for like ... lets say last 6 months??? then would u still b understanding??? huh~?~?~? ... would u???
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12/17/2008 7:14 am |
First off, if I got married in this situation, I got married for the wrong reason. The guy in this senario got married for the money and deserved what he got. Why doesn't he go with the wife on her late night entertaining? long time , eh??? Well... Dat would ' ve been my Q ... but lets just say ... He not invited~!~?~! Lets also say she s still keeping her x- hubbys last name so she can play im still divorced n available...
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12/16/2008 4:32 pm |
Hi Jamie, I guess it would depend on how much I love and trusted her. If I loved her, then I would try to make things work no matter what the financial situation is. I also would try to understand her work and help as much as I can, especially with her daughter, coz they need to build a bond as a family. Trust is very important in a relationship, so as long as we trust each other, then I would make the effort, but would like things to get better with time. Honestly, I love spending nights with my partner, so I would like things to get better.
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12/16/2008 3:17 pm |
Yeah Jamie, as I said, women have probably been putting up with this style situation since the beginning of humanity. Now the shoe is on the other foot with women being empowered and having money. They can choose who they want because they have more options than even just 50 years ago. As ZenRiver wrote, in this situation the man didn't marry for love and I agree. That's why I say he should stick it out. After all, if you went into business with someone and were making money, wouldn't you stay partners even if that person became unavailable and their family members started to dis you? I would, I'd just be a little more "observant." And yeah, relatively speaking, I'm doing incredibly well. However I do live at the end of the road in the middle of nowhere (aka Lawton, OK)! 
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12/16/2008 7:28 am |
Wow, I would like to know what happened. Couldn't even try to answer this one. Lets say hypothetically ... He is financially comfortable where he is now n uncertain whether he can make it on his own.... Dats the main reason why he is sticking w da marriage despite da abuse n negletions from his wife n her daughter... My Q is wut would some of u guys do in such situation???
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12/16/2008 7:17 am |
 
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12/16/2008 5:24 am |
First off, if I got married in this situation, I got married for the wrong reason. The guy in this senario got married for the money and deserved what he got. Why doesn't he go with the wife on her late night entertaining?
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12/16/2008 1:15 am |
Great question Jamie and very relevant in this day and age. I think that women have probably had to put up with this kind of treatment for the past 6,000 years. As a man who actually likes older women I can tell you that, by and large, older women who seek younger men to begin with are looking to be the one controlling the relationship. With this is mind, your hypothetical scenario makes goods sense. It fits my model. The man is pretty much stuck. However, his life doesn't really suck if you think about it. Chances are very good, he didn't enter into the relationship for love. He has a business, he has his life. He still has his wife. Love was never mentioned, so it's a business relationship really. There's a lot to lose through divorce. He should stick it out. Luckily, I don't have to worry about it because, to quote Dave Chappelle, "I'm rich b@#$h!" Lance U really R????? then Goo pho U~!~!~!
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12/15/2008 8:09 pm |
Great question Jamie and very relevant in this day and age. I think that women have probably had to put up with this kind of treatment for the past 6,000 years. As a man who actually likes older women I can tell you that, by and large, older women who seek younger men to begin with are looking to be the one controlling the relationship. With this is mind, your hypothetical scenario makes goods sense. It fits my model. The man is pretty much stuck. However, his life doesn't really suck if you think about it. Chances are very good, he didn't enter into the relationship for love. He has a business, he has his life. He still has his wife. Love was never mentioned, so it's a business relationship really. There's a lot to lose through divorce. He should stick it out. Luckily, I don't have to worry about it because, to quote Dave Chappelle, "I'm rich b@#$h!" Lance
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12/15/2008 4:46 pm |
Wow, I would like to know what happened. Couldn't even try to answer this one.
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12/15/2008 7:48 am |
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