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One of my ex girlfriends called me today and told me she's going to San Francisco to see her boyfriend's parents this weekend. She said she would marry him and I congratulated her. I met her 2 weeks after I moved to San Diego almost 3 years ago and dated her for about 4 months. Things were going well until she asked me what my new year's resolution was and told me what hers was. Mine was pretty generic but hers was very specific which was getting married and guess what happened. We broke up. lol I swear I wasn't the one who broke up with her. It was her 'cause she didn't want to keep the relationship when she knew it wasn't going anywhere. We made up and broke up a couple more times but eventually it didn't work out. She's been calling me on and off and she finally met another guy and I guess now she's ready to settle down. I didn't think I hurt her that much but I guess I did? Why would she even bother to call me to let me know she's getting married and will be so happy? Is this some sort of revenge or what? lol I mean I'm happy for her but honestly, I kinda felt bad 'cause I don't really care about her marriage. I don't think many guys will do this but a lot of girls do this for whatever reason or is she one of the few girls who would do this? Well, I don't know but if you are even thinking about calling your ex and telling him how happy you will be, please don't. I'll telling you it won't get you what you want. You'll be better off just forgetting about the past and making a good plan on your future. |
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4/29/2008 11:16 pm |
I'll drink to that! 1 jaeger, please!
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 4/30/2008 12:31 am |
wow!!! Typical Korean drama on t.v.... Well @least it sounds dat way to me... do u watch korean dramas??? Y do u think she called to let u know dat she was getting married??? Btw~ thanx for da advice... Guess if u really liked her, u would not hav let her go in 1st place.....
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4/30/2008 12:34 am |
I tend to do that in the beginning but then, it takes time to completely not care for someone you cared for before. I don't do it intentionally to hurt that person though, don't get me wrong. But it is a process for me. I know some may have the luxury going somewhere for a week and completely dropping that person out of your system. I don't have that luxury but I used to do that. Go on a trip for 3-4 days with one or two girlfriends, burn everything he gave me, and leave my heart (piece of my heart that belonged to him) whereever I went. To be away from that person completely. My recent trip had many good and bad things...but I am glad I went. Because I am completely over it. I just wish that person happiness.
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 4/30/2008 2:55 am |
My x wife called me to tell me she was getting married. I think they feel they have to let us know for some reason...Im not sure why She was free to get married, we had been divorced for a while. I just told her that I was happy for her and wished her the best.
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4/30/2008 2:59 am |
Maybe she wants you to come to the wedding and wisk her away before she ties the knot?
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4/30/2008 6:43 am |
Maybe these ex girlfriends and wives are saying goodbye for good. If one has children with the ex-wife, it'd be better to know what's going on with her for the children's sake... ie; how this new arrangement of living situation would affect the children, etc. Good to know the guys' view though. My ex-bf calls me now and then to talk about his present relationship. I listen and try give him my objective point of view which he seems to appreciate. I don't see why one cannot remain friends with ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends.
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4/30/2008 6:48 am |
sean, one of the first thing that i do when i break up is to delete the phone number (usually only info i have) from my phone... can't believe i used to remember all the pplz phone numbers before the age of cell phones... p.s. i do have one ex who wants to be informed when i do get married...we're still friends and still see each other time to time so... sabine
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4/30/2008 9:38 am |
Sean....the beginning of understanding women is realizing that they simply are NOT understandable. They are IRRATIONAL specie.... once you give up trying to understand them, you begin to feel freedom. I DID.
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4/30/2008 10:07 am |
sean, maybe, she justs want to finally close the book on you and your relationship with her... And, maybe also to let you know you will never hear from her again??? (even a hint to never call her again?) Christine
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4/30/2008 10:08 pm |
hummmm whats to understand. Some likes to let others know whats going on with their life. Maybe she still thinks of you as a good guy. And of course you ARE! 
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5/2/2008 6:36 am |
Who says women are IRRATIONAL? Isn't that type of remark considered a sexist? 
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5/2/2008 1:58 pm |
wow!!! Typical Korean drama on t.v.... Well @least it sounds dat way to me... do u watch korean dramas??? Y do u think she called to let u know dat she was getting married??? Btw~ thanx for da advice... Guess if u really liked her, u would not hav let her go in 1st place.....
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5/2/2008 2:01 pm |
Maybe she wants you to come to the wedding and wisk her away before she ties the knot? 
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5/2/2008 2:03 pm |
Maybe these ex girlfriends and wives are saying goodbye for good. If one has children with the ex-wife, it'd be better to know what's going on with her for the children's sake... ie; how this new arrangement of living situation would affect the children, etc. Good to know the guys' view though. My ex-bf calls me now and then to talk about his present relationship. I listen and try give him my objective point of view which he seems to appreciate. I don't see why one cannot remain friends with ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends.
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5/2/2008 2:06 pm |
Sean....the beginning of understanding women is realizing that they simply are NOT understandable. They are IRRATIONAL specie.... once you give up trying to understand them, you begin to feel freedom. I DID.
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5/2/2008 2:12 pm |
sean, maybe, she justs want to finally close the book on you and your relationship with her... And, maybe also to let you know you will never hear from her again??? (even a hint to never call her again?) Christine
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5/2/2008 2:14 pm |
hummmm whats to understand. Some likes to let others know whats going on with their life. Maybe she still thinks of you as a good guy. And of course you ARE!
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5/2/2008 2:17 pm |
Who says women are IRRATIONAL? Isn't that type of remark considered a sexist?
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5/7/2008 8:35 pm |
That sounds like a movie title: "THE REVENGE OF MY EX-GIRLFRIEND" In theaters next fall……lol
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5/22/2008 12:11 pm |
Sean, guys also do this sort of thing all the time. I know at least 4 who did. In each case, I sensed that they were uncertain about their decision to marry whoever they were marrying. Gia
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5/26/2008 7:34 pm |
I've been here before, in this case ladies intend: 1) To say a permanent goodbye to you. 2) To sow a seed of regret in you. 3) To keep you in the loop, as girls like to keep a tether to the past for security. No matter what, just forget about it. If she decided to marry someone else, don't think about it much. You're just friends at best. If the way the relationship is is not broken, take no action to fix it. No further action or thought on the matter is necessary. That's my opinion.
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