meeting my mentor
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I had lunch with my mentor today that lasted three hours. Why is he my mentor? I don’t think he thinks he is my mentor but I look to him for all sorts of advice. What are his qualities that I admire so much? He is sharp, level-headed, logical, able to simplify seemingly complex issues, accessible, humble, and is a man of faith. Right out of law school in Virginia, I joined a law firm. He was a partner there, and immediately I recognized that he was a great guy to go to for solid advice, businesslike yet accessible. In short, I wanted to be this kind of lawyer, indeed this kind of person, possessed with the character to be able to weather the storms of conflict while firmly seated at the head mast without being pulled over into the water or swayed by the inevitable unexpected momentary gust, and seeing things with eyes wide open and simplifying the seemingly unsolvable issues. He moved out to San Diego about twelve years ago. I moved out to L.A. about seven years ago. In the meantime, I had already left his firm sometime ago, but I always kept in touch with him calling him ever so often for advice. He was always cordial and glad to hear from me. When I started my own practice about six years ago, I began to actively ask him to have lunch to catch up on the law and the business of lawyering as well as family life. So, we would meet about half way between San Diego and Los Angeles in Irvine area generally. We talked mostly about family, what he is doing at home away from work, how his kids are doing, asking me how my wife and kids are doing and so forth. I wanted to talk to him this time because I was feeling down about all sorts of issues. And he agreed to meet. We talked for about three hours. Today was a bit different than others. On other meetings, he had seemed to be a bit aloof but today he was very personable, and as I shared my story we talked through it and he was of immense help. I feel better now. |
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2/20/2009 10:44 pm |
We need to believe in someone.
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2/22/2009 11:37 am |
An invaluable lunch.  I think I'm due for one myself.
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2/28/2009 2:57 pm |
Raihei, fawn - mentorship has been on my mind very much recently.
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3/16/2009 11:01 am |
I'm very happy for u dat u have someone who s able to guide u to rite direction when ur stuck ... I have few I talked to when I'm lost 2.. Not sure tho whether they r giving me correct , rather good advices... I think a good mentor can make a world of difference when ur making important decisions... i envy u for having such a mentor...~!
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3/16/2009 9:35 pm |
Hi Jamie. Yes. I am very fortunate. But I think a mentor is someone you have to reach out. In other words, mentors don't come to you, you have to go to mentor. I haven't anybody consider me their mentor, except for my own kids, but I am happy about that. Hope you are well.
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